Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Marriage Myths, Part 8 - How Many Wives?


Today’s post looks at a most curious form of marriage to many - polygyny. Though the graphic appears to misspell polygamy (the word most people associate with the practice), it may be somewhat accurate in that it was trying to spell polygyny. What is the difference? Polygyny is specificially the practice of keeping multiple wives. Polygamy does not specify a certain sex of the partner, and is a term that can be used of a wife with multiple husbands.

It is no doubt that polygyny is present in the Bible. The question we are investigating today is “Why?”  Did it serve a practical purpose? If we remind ourselves, as I’ve pointed out in this series, that marriage was not personal in the ancient world and sex was not a mystical act for mutual pleasure, then polygyny seems far less boring and less objectionable.  But why was it practiced to begin with?  To answer this, we need to look at 2 things. Can any insights we’ve discovered about ancient marriage so far help us? And who practiced polygyny, anyway?

We’ll answer the 2nd question first, as it will make our answer to the 1st question clearer. To do this, let’s take a brief look at the names actually mentioned in the graphic, and see just who they were.

      Lamech (Genesis 4:19-24) –descendant of Cain. Father of Jabal, Jubal and Tubal-Cain, themselves fathers and representatives of the major trades and skills in ancient civilizations (farmers, musicians and blacksmiths).
      Esau (Genesis 26:34–35) – founder of the nation of Edom, a neighbor to and source of trouble for Israel for centuries. Note that Isaac and Rebekah were not pleased with his marriages.
      Jacob (Genesis 29:14-30) – father of 12 sons, patron and progenitor of the entire tribe of Israel. Anyone who has actually read the story knows he did not WANT 2 wives. He was promised 1 and tricked into marrying another because it was customary. So he continued working to earn the wife he originally desired. Is that a bad example of love, even by modern romantic standards?
      Ashhur (1 Chronicles 4:5) –descendant of Hur, father of Tekoa.
      Gideon (Judges 6-8) – noteworthy and brilliant military leader. He destroyed pagan places of worship in Israel and rescued them from the Midianites – establishing 40 years of peace (Judges 8:28).
      Elkanah (1 Samuel 1:1-2) – father of Samuel (an important prophet). Before Samuel’s birth, the text mentions Hannah had not given him any children.  Keep in mind how important we’ve noted childbearing was throughout this series - a second wife would not be unthinkable (though we are not told this is the reason for the arrangement).
      David – 2nd king of Israel and king of greatest reputation in Jewish history.
      Solomon – 3rd king of Israel, wisest man in history and also highly reputable in Jewish history.
      Rehoboam – 4th king of Israel and son of Solomon. Eventually became 1st king of Judah when the kingdom split.
      Abijah (2 Chronicles 13) – 2nd king of Judah. He warred with Jeroboam and gained many wives as he “grew in strength”.
      Jehoram (2 Chronicles 21:16-17)– king of Judah. Mostly notable for the bowel disease he was infected with after forsaking God and embarrassing Judah with his attempt to conquer Edom.
      Joash (2 Chronicles 24:3) 8th king of Judah. Collected large sums of money to help rebuild the temple, though later led Israel into idol worship. Note the wives were chosen for him by the high priest, Jehoiada.
      Ahab (1 Kings 16:29-34) – king of Israel during the time of Elijah. I am not aware of him having more than one wife. He is notable for the one wife he did have - Jezebel, the daughter of the Ethbaal (king of Tyre). Jezebel converted Ahab to Baal worship and slaughtered countless prophets of Israel. Even if he had wanted more wives, this was not a woman who would have likely shared them.
      Jehoiachin (2 Kings 24:15) – king of Judah when Israel was taken into captivity by Babylon.
      Belshazzar (Daniel 5:2) –king of Babylon, the largest kingdom of the day. Also the last king before the nation was conquered by the Medes.

On closer look, do you see what most of these individuals have in common? They are not ordinary characters. These are people of high honor and status – rare individuals of extreme importance. At least 8 of the 15 mentioned in the list are kings! Of those who were not kings, we have descendants of important people, and some of the patriarchs who founded entire nations in the Middle East.  These were far from everyday people. This means the practice of polygyny was clearly not common, or for common people.

In the case of Lamech, we have an even more interesting reason to understand his possession of multiple wives. A close look at the story shows it serves the purpose of explaining the source of stereotypes related to skills and trades practiced most common in the ancient world. The names of each of his wives translate to “dawn” and “shadow”, respectively. So “dawn” gives birth to herdsmen and musicians (skills practiced by day). Similarly, “shadow” gives birth to blacksmiths, whose sister was Naamah (pleasure) – things practiced by night. [1] In short, Lamech’s two wives are not objects of desire, but explanations for why this duality exists.

So, now that you’ve seen what types of individuals practiced polygyny, that still leaves one question left – why was it practiced? What purpose could it have served? As we mentioned early in the series, marriage was the fusing of 2 families and their reputations, not just joining 2 individuals. A marriage in those days, then, could serve multiple purposes.

One of the more positive outcomes of marriage is that it would smooth over any instability in the relationships between the families. And just who are the types of individuals most likely to have many unstable and tricky social relationships? No less than political leaders – kings and people of high reputation. That’s why these are mostly the people you see in the list above (and in the Bible, and in all of ancient culture). Whether kings or patriarchs, their reputation was important to maintain. And one sure way to do that with potential rivals is to form an alliance through securing marriage.

To see how practical or important this actually would be, you have to realize how unstable politics could be in those days (if it’s not clear enough from reading 1 and 2 Kings and 1 and 2 Chronicles). Pilch and Malina note in their Handbook of Biblical Social Values that within the Roman Empire alone, 31 of the 79 emporers were murdered (assassinated).  [2] They go on to note of the remaining 48 that 6 committed suicide and 4 were forced out of power. [3] That leaves about half of the emperors able to reign without serious threat to their power. Looking at the history of the U.S’s now 44 presidents (with Barack Obam), one will find 3 presidential assassinations and 3 attempts at impeachments. This makes up not even 14% of our leaders, leaving the remaining 86% serving without serious threat to power.

When it comes down to it, polygyny did make sense in culture of the ancient world, but was still fairly rare. We have no need for it in our day, since we have more stable politics. And what troubles we do have are much easier to smooth over through diplomacy. It is absurd for us to assume something was wrong with this standard, though, simply because it seems odd to us. Despite the best efforts of Christians who have struggled to explain polygyny, we don’t have to assume God was working through sinful people. We don’t even need to assume that such things were sinful to start with. We just have to recognize them for what they are – political gains that helped to keep peace during chaotic and unstable times. And isn’t that something we all would hope our leaders would strive for?



 [1] "Lamech." Wikipedia, the Free Encyclopedia. Web. 2 Mar. 2012. <http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lamech>.
[2] Pilch, John J., and Bruce J. Malina. Handbook of Biblical Social Values. Peabody, MA: Hendrickson, 1998. 7. Print.
[3] ibid

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